Many of us are in search for true love. In my own case I married at a young tender age of 22. I was not the best judge of choosing a mate because I did not have the social skills to make such a big decision. After 22 years of marriage I found myself divorced and dating. What a culture shock! I didn't know there were any men out there who were in their 40's & 50's and never married. I thought everyone was married. When I started dating I was like a dear in hunting season. My dating experience was limited to dating one man before I met my ex-husband. I had a lot to learn. I will share with you what I learned in the last five years.

You must love yourself first: It's imperative to love yourself first, because it is what you will have to give to a relationship. If you don't love yourself it will be hard to love anyone else. Go back into a time in your life when you were a child, before the influence of family and society gave you feelings of doubt about yourself. See that innocent child and remember how beautiful, loveable, natural, and carefree that child was. That beauty is still within you as the Spirit of God, pure unconditional love. Love yourself, tell yourself all day love how loved you are. When you are loved that is what you will have to give away to others. If you want to meet a kind, loving, caring, generous, partner, you must be kind, loving, caring, and generous. We attract into our lives what we are.  Unfortunately if we are dysfunctional mess, then that is what we will manifest. Work on yourself, your character defects, get therapy, join a 12 step group, read books on relationships, when you become better the world around you will be better.

Define what you are looking for:  I have been dating for the past 5 years. At first I just wanted to date and have fun. This was fine, but this is all I got. I must have met at least a hundred men in the past 4 years and all I got were dates. Most men wanted a second date, but I did not find Mr. Right in this pile of internet dates because I wasn't thinking of meeting a quality long term relationship type, only that I wanted to date. Then when I defined what I wanted, which is a loving, caring, educated, fun loving, spiritual man with a great sense of humor and morals, for a long term relationship with the possibility of marriage in the future, who does not want to have kids, I was set. You must define, in details, what you are looking for. If you can't define it, the synchronized universe cannot provide it.

Meditate on the man of your dreams. When you gear yourself to negative thinking you will get negative results in your life. I was very much into a man who was just a friend. I kept thinking about him, hoping he would start a relationship with me, but there was nothing there, therefore, I got nothing back from the universe. Once I detached emotionally from him and opened up room in my heart for someone else, was I able to find the man of my dreams. He is exactly what I was searching for. You have to think positive. I meditated on the type of man I wanted, I kept thinking of the abundance of quality men in the world and I put all my energy on that thought. What you think about does happen in your life. It's an amazing revelation for me. Try thinking about someone in the course of your day and see if that person calls you or you run into them in the store. It's amazing how our thoughts create our lives, so it's only nature to keep the positive energy flowing. Even if you have had a hundred internet dates and feel discouraged, don't put out negative energy. Take a break from dating and then go back with positive affirmations and attitude.

Sit back and relax and be thankful: After you have defined what you want, gotten rid of men who are not interested, and meditated on the man of your dreams, sit back and relax and be thankful for everything in your life. Sure, continue going to places where you can meet the man of your dreams, and continue internet dating, or whatever method you are using, but relax and let life flow. Let the universe handle the details and just go with the positive flow your life is taking. Don't worry about the time frame or if it will happen, you MUST know in your heart it will happen and let go and let God take over. And always have gratitude for everything in your life. In the evening, meditate on gratitude. Don't ask for anything, meditate on being thankful for all you have and see the man of your dreams in your meditation and already in your life and be thankful for him. When you already know he is here and with you, he will come into your life even faster than you realize. Picture him, know he is here and be thankful.

If you have any questions or want further advice on dating, please do not hesitate to contact me.